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Sep. 25th, 2023 11:08 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lonelypaperstarI am burnt out from this D&D group.
I am tired of chasing down people to see if they're coming through to my sessions even if I plan them 3-4 weeks in advance fully knowing that some people need that amount of time as a heads up. No one ever protests, so I left it at that. I've stopped messaging people individually about attending because it doesn't make a difference.
I am tired of having zero communication and dead silence from 3/5 of this group. It just tells me that I care more about this world and these stories and these hooks more than they do. I'm tired of chasing people for their backstories and how to incorporate their wants, needs, and goals into it.
I am tired of pulling and pulling only to get the bare minimum. I am tired of friends who just don't care. It's rude to get ghosted by them without a word. Hey, spouse got a broken leg? Children are being fussy? Okay, understandable, but TELL ME. Not feeling it socially? TELL ME. Why wait for me to do anything? At that point, it's the absentee players' responsibility to fucking let me and the present players know that they can't make it. Social etiquette.
I am, however, grateful for the two other players in the campaign who talk to me despite being busy, despite having a lot more going on in their lives.
It's still disheartening to see that my hard work for this world and caring for the players' characters gets me nowhere.
If they're absent the next session, I'm ending the campaign.
I am tired of chasing down people to see if they're coming through to my sessions even if I plan them 3-4 weeks in advance fully knowing that some people need that amount of time as a heads up. No one ever protests, so I left it at that. I've stopped messaging people individually about attending because it doesn't make a difference.
I am tired of having zero communication and dead silence from 3/5 of this group. It just tells me that I care more about this world and these stories and these hooks more than they do. I'm tired of chasing people for their backstories and how to incorporate their wants, needs, and goals into it.
I am tired of pulling and pulling only to get the bare minimum. I am tired of friends who just don't care. It's rude to get ghosted by them without a word. Hey, spouse got a broken leg? Children are being fussy? Okay, understandable, but TELL ME. Not feeling it socially? TELL ME. Why wait for me to do anything? At that point, it's the absentee players' responsibility to fucking let me and the present players know that they can't make it. Social etiquette.
I am, however, grateful for the two other players in the campaign who talk to me despite being busy, despite having a lot more going on in their lives.
It's still disheartening to see that my hard work for this world and caring for the players' characters gets me nowhere.
If they're absent the next session, I'm ending the campaign.
